How To Buy Lingerie That She Will Love (And Wear Again And Again)

After fragrance, lingerie is the second most popular gift for Christmas.

Women love to receive gifts of luxury for Christmas.  After all, if they need a blender or vacuum, it's considered a necessity and they can buy what they need without guilt at any time of the year.

But fragrance and lingerie seems to whisper, "I love you" the moment she opens the package.  They are decadent gifts that she may not so readily indulge in for herself.

Here is part 1 of 2:  a guide for men on how to buy lingerie.  Part 2 on buying fragrance is coming in the near future.

Buying lingerie for your lady is intimidating for two reasons.  The first one is obvious -- it can be uncomfortable to walk into what seems like a ladies’ only store.  Lingerie stores are often pink, frilly places with only lady customers inside being served by (usually) youngish women.

The second reason buying lingerie for her is intimidating?  Lingerie you have purchased in the past has often ended up collecting dust in a drawer.

In reality, there is no need to fear the idea of walking into a lingerie store.  The sales ladies are used to helping men find something perfect for their special someone.  You may be the only male in the store at that moment, but lingerie sales peak before holidays such as Christmas and Valentine’s mainly because of thoughtful guys like you -- guys who are trying to do something nice for the woman they love. In fact, men make 20% of all lingerie purchases throughout the year.

So how do you buy lingerie that makes her feel both comfortable and beautiful?

It’s not as hard as it sounds.  A little research will get you (and ultimately her) what she really wants.

Start by looking in her closet.  What size is she?  Write down the sizes for her current lingerie, bras, dress pants or jeans, and tops.  This information will immensely help the sales lady find the correct size and shorten your shopping time. (Don’t make the classic mistake of eyeing the sales women and telling her your wife is about her size or just a little bigger.  There are a lot of sizes out there and being off by one or two makes the outfit unwearable.)

Go for something comfortable.  No one wants to wear scratchy, itchy fabric against their skin -- not even, as hard as this may be to comprehend, not even if it means a guaranteed night of bliss with you.  Rub the fabric against your inner wrist (this part of your skin is sensitive so it will give you a good reading).  If it’s scratchy, move on.

Yes, yes, we know comfort usually means flannel or some other matronly fabric.  Not exactly a turn on.  However, believe it or not, there are some sexy, beautiful pieces that feel great on.  You just have to spend a little extra time looking for them and make sure you are politely firm with the sales lady when you make this a requirement.  Remember, you want your lady to actually wear the lingerie, correct?

Look for something she will feel beautiful wearing.  If she feels beautiful, she’ll automatically feel sexy and you have got what you want, one happy, sexy woman.  To do this, refer back to what you saw in her closet.  What does she usually buy for herself now?  Take it one or two steps beyond.  Any more and she may not have the courage to put it on.  For instance, if she only wears plain cotton bras and panties, go for something close to that style, but with a beautiful colour, flirty ruffle, and/or a sexy animal print pattern.  Avoid anything with strategic cut outs in both the bra and panties.  You get the point.

Lingerie is a special, intimate gift that says, “I love you and think you are beautiful.”  Make sure you do the research first so you feel more comfortable while you are shopping and she feels comfortable, flattered, and very sexy when she’s wearing it.

To Flirt Or Not To Flirt At Office Christmas Parties

[To flirt or not to flirt at the office Christmas party.  The following guide offers advice and helps you decide whether or not you should flirt at your office Christmas party.]

It's the dating dilemma that surfaces every year at this time.  

The office Christmas party is just around the corner and you are wondering whether to grab the opportunity to go after that sexy colleague.  (S)he has been sending lingering glances your way; talking and joking around with you a little more than other people at the office; and her/his smiles are over the top with seduction.  Oh, how tantalizing.

After checking out your company's policy on inter-office dating, you have to ask yourself a couple of questions to help you decide whether you will take the plunge and become romantically involved, or to keep it platonic, regardless of the seductive vibes:

1.  If the relationship doesn't work out, will you be able to handle seeing and interacting with her/him around the office on a daily basis?

2.  If this person ended up flirting/dating with another co-worker after you break up, would you be able to tolerate seeing their interactions?

3.  Often gossip about your dating/breaking up with that person would circulate around your workplace.  Would that be something that would bother you to a great degree?

4.  If the relationship was a keeper, could you interact/work with this person on a daily basis during the ups and downs of the course of a normal relationship? 

The bottom line is really your career and job.  You need to feel comfortable enough in the workplace to produce quality work that will keep you in your job.  You also need to feel comfortable going to that workplace so that you are happy to go to the office ... not dreading facing an awkward, or even painful situation if things don't work out between you and your sexy co-worker.

Once you have answered these questions for yourself, you will be a lot more prepared going to that office Christmas party.  Smart - and possibly fun.

Or, you could just throw caution to the wind and dive in with passionate abandon, whatever the outcome.  And that's just plain fun.

I'll let you choose.

As always, if you have any relationship or dating questions you would like answered, leave a comment and I will be happy to answer you.

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How to Look Good (or Thinner) in Pictures: A Holiday Guide

The holidays are fast approaching and so is holiday picture taking.  Problem is, not everyone loves being in front of the camera.  Although we may all be great looking in real life, we're not all naturally photogenic.  

In my line of work, I am often in front of the camera and I have to look my best, so I've learned a few tricks along the way to get the camera to show me at my best.  Now, I'm sharing my tips with you on how to look good in pictures.