4 Ways To Improve and Affair Proof Your Marriage

Marriage is one of life's oxymorons. It can be beautiful and fun if nurtured, but ugly and grueling if ignored. If you are married and love your husband, life and marriage, take steps to ensure that you are making every effort possible towards a fun, happy and stable marriage. You deserve a great marriage. Here are four ways to nurture your marriage, improve your marriage, and affair proof your marriage!

1. If you want to have a great husband, be a great wife. Lead by example. Put 100 percent into your marriage every day. Ask yourself, "How can I make my marriage better today?" If you want your husband to be your good friend, be a good friend to him. If you want him to be loyal, show him by modelling that behavior yourself. Call him at work to tell him you love him; give him a hug when you know he is having a tough day; and don't flirt with others.  Reserve the flirting for him & him only.

2. Be his friend. You've got that covered, right? Maybe it's time to make sure you do. When was the last time you had a date night together? Have you taken a vacation alone for 2 or more nights in the last year? Have you turned off the television and asked how he was? Being a friend in a marriage means more than sharing a house or children together. It means listening to and spending time with your spouse. Give him that time. He will love you all the more.

3. Be his sexual fantasy. Actually, you've pretty much got this one covered. He would not have married you otherwise. We all put on a few pounds over the years and we tend to grow a few grey hairs. But, men really don't notice this stuff as much as we do. All a husband ultimately wants is to be intimate with his wife. It is a way to show his wife how much he cares. Also, it allows him to feel connected to you on a deeper level. 

Why not encourage this connection? Wear your favorite fragrance. Prepare a great bubble bath for two. Flirt with him and make him feel the rush of knowing someone thinks he is sexy and hot. Before you know it, you will be feeling sexy and hot too.

Improve Your Relationship One Step At A Time To Get Back To All-Out Sexiness

Couples in long-term relationships often take each other for granted.  Although our partners mean the world to us, sometimes we can get bogged down in the everyday pressures of life and may ignore their sexy side.  How and why this happens can be a mystery to us.  How can someone we thought to be the sexiest person walking on the face of the earth slowly turn into more of a friend than a lover?


Actually, this stage of a relationship is normal.  When two people are in a long-term relationship, living life side by side and facing the challenges it brings, they are bound to become comfortable with each other.  This level of comfort is a good thing.  The trick is to keep (or get) the sexy back.  Here's how:

5 Ways To Make Your Girlfriend (or Wife) Feel Sexy

Anything beautiful needs nurturing, and that includes your relationship.  Make it fun.  Make it sexy!

Sometimes when a good relationship has lived for years, it may become weighed down in routines and external demands that drain some of the romance out of it.  Even a great relationship can fall victim to these effects.  You may be in love with your long-time girlfriend or wife, yet not experience those passionate moments as intensely or as often you once did in the beginning of your relationship.


Don't panic.  You can bring that intensity back by making her feel as sexy as you know she is by using these relationship tips.  Once she feels sexy, she's more likely to act sexy.  And that will benefit both her and you.  Here's how to bring the sexy back relationship and marriage:

How to Kiss so (S)He'll Want More: Three Easy Steps to Becoming a Sexy, Sought-After Kisser

Want to really electrify her (him) with your kisses?  Bring it to the next level.  Once you amp up your kissing skills, (s)he'll be knocking on your door for more:


1.  Pay Attention to the Kiss.  I mean really pay attention.  Tune into the softness in her (his) lips; feel your partner's body against yours; listen to her (his) almost inaudible moans.  Once you allow yourself to relax and immerse yourself in the wave of signals your partner is sending, you will naturally be more sensual and inviting with your kiss.


2.  Mix it Up.  Gently break away from the kiss to steal little moments of extra passion.  Stare deeply into her (his) eyes before returning to the kiss.  Nibble your partner's lip, bite her (his) neck with different levels of intensity.  (Always make it gentle enough for pleasure.  No one wants a pain in the neck.)

Facebook, Texting, E-Mail: Great Flirt Tools to Keep, Not Challenge, Fidelity in Your Relationship

Staying faithful and being monogamous can be a challenge in today's society.  Opportunities to hook up with an old flame on facebook; texting a flirty co-worker (even while sitting on the couch with your partner); or sending an e-mail from your office computer, are often so easy, fast, and quiet, no one is denied access to the possibilities.


So if facebook, texting, and e-mails can jeopardize your relationship, why not use them to strengthen your bond?  Now that's fun!


Passion, flirting, and adrenaline rushes are all there for the taking using these tools.

How to Keep the Romance in Your Marriage

The other day I was talking about marriage with my close friend over a cup of tea.  She told me that she and her friends didn't need any flirting or dating advice because they were already married.  If I was a stick figure cartoon character, you would have seen 50 question and exclamation points instantly pop up, dancing over my head.

Being married isn't the "get into jail free; don't make passes; don't collect 200 kisses" card.  Marriage is the most important time to flirt, date, and invest time getting fresh ideas so your relationship doesn't go stale.  After all, if you can't flirt or date with your spouse, the most important person in your life, who will you ever do it with?

Newlyweds flirt and date with each other. (How fun!)  But somewhere along the way, many people forget to keep this part of their relationship healthy.

Yes, most people are deeply in love with their spouses, but with an ever-growing list of demands on their time, they forget to initiate (or avoid responding to) romance.  Both men and women often spend all day working; tending to their children's needs (if they have children); and fulfilling their daily responsibilities.  By the end of the day, their energy is sapped.  They often defer their most important responsibility -- their marriage.  

A marriage isn't an after-thought.  It should be the first thought.  Just because a couple has been together many years and share most every intimate detail of their lives and being, it doesn't excuse them from exploring each other and continuing to fall in love with each other even more.

Being over-tired and lacking energy isn't an excuse either.  Tired or not, office meetings, coffee with friends, and daily routines still happen.  Tired or not, taking care of the one you love still has to happen.

Married couples need to make a concerted effort to spend time together (alone ... no kids, no group dates, e.t.c.) to keep the romance alive.  It has to be scheduled, just as they would a doctor's appointment, a trip to the gym, or a business meeting.  (This meeting, however, would end up being a lot more fun.)  If it isn't scheduled, it won't happen.

Wives and husbands need time to see each other as individuals.  No one can do this unless they are able to be alone together at some point (snoring together doesn't count).

I, for one, refuse to allow my husband and I to become glorified roommates.  After years of marriage and continuing to raise three busy boys together, I love being so comfortable with him that I know he is my best friend.  But I forever want him to be my best friend with benefits.  

P.S.  This article may be of further interest:  "Keep the Excitement in Your Relationship"

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